- Does your family/friends tend to try and change who you are or certain things about you?
- After or during an encounter with your family/friends do you often feel insecure, doubt yourself, feel angry or depressed?
- Are there people in your life who have negatively influenced you ?
- Do your family/friends influence you to engage in behavior that can get you into trouble or stay in situations and relationships longer than you should?
- Do you substitute sex for love?
When it comes to relationships, can you ‘let go’ if there are signs that you are being played? Can you let go of relationships with people who aren’t helping but hurting you? Do you know what to do after you decide to let go? It is important to develop healthy boundaries and have a support system to encourage you.
What is a boundary? A boundary is an invisible “line” between you and other people – limits beyond which will not go and beyond which are not welcome. Do you know your boundaries? Can you communicate them to other people? Learn how to express your boundaries with difficult people and how to identify where others’ feelings and opinions start and stop.
Patterns of Codependence: Denial, Low Self-Esteem, Compliance, Control, etc.| Do you have difficulty identifying your feelings or minimize, alter or deny them? | Denial |
| Do you have difficulty making decisions, judge your thoughts, words and actions harshly, or never as being good enough? Are you embarrassed to receive recognition, praise or gifts? | Low Self-Esteem |
| Do you compromise you values and integrity to avoid rejection and other people’s anger? | Compliance |
| Do you believe most others are incapable of caring for themselves, attempt to convince others what they should think or feel, or freely offer advice and guidance without being asked? |
Control |
- Don’t rush into relationships, slower is better.
- Choose not to get involved in relationships that feel unhealthy, unsafe, or inappropriate.
- Do not risk more than you are willing to lose: physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially.
- Do not risk more than the other person is risking: feeling, dreams, fears, etc.
REMEMBER: Change is difficult, but necessary for healthy relationships!
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